C: In what way can conflict help us grow?

[lightsun]

"There are so many different variant ways conflict produces. It is a phoenix, a constant tearing down, then a building up in a stronger manner. Try finding as a corollary the body builder; they tear down their muscle, then with stress rebuild. There can be a passion also. What our experiences happen being will determine behavior, for we set to reach homeostasis. We wish balance. So say one is in a trauma, they then in overriding this trauma, might go on and be such as role model and example. I feel Martin Luther King Jr., Abraham Lincoln and other immortals talk at times about standing up for your convictions in spite of the danger of losing life.

I can see it being and having compassion, morals and, "to put up or shut up", even at the risk of your own life. This is an admirable virtue, not only to talk your philosophy, but also to take action and the necessary steps in the right direction.  “Without challenges we cannot grow as effectively. It is our interpersonal relationships which are true tests of our character, will power & poise. If we react negatively we are immature. Moreover we are angry. Still deeper is deep hurt. We are incomplete and so fight the world. The challenge is to deal with life's challenges with more decorum, but it hurts, or is not fair.

The true battle lies within. The more rational a person is the less distorted they are, and hopefully more balanced as well as happy.
Apparently On our journey's we need two types. Type one that reinforces us, rejuvenates us, & inspires us. We must also deal with unpleasant experiences that force us to examine our core beliefs and either strengthen them or modify the position we hold. 
But ideally it takes two intelligent and rational people willing to learn. Along the path we will find those that try our patience and fortitude of spirit. Yet, I believe there is the possibility of synergy here and hopefully we both grow.

We have an adult, honest, semi-professional relationship. Now let us look at the flip side. We have both witnessed useless argumentative wars because egos were not strong enough to listen and process, as well as use critical thinking. There may be a disagreement between us but we are sensible. We listen. It is either true or not according to our sensibilities. It is an utmost necessity in order of expansion in our conscious mind.

Without conflict, thus introducing new thoughts as well a way in dealing with them hopefully in a constructive mind and way, there is a slow growth. We are constantly actualizing, growing throughout crises, being pushed to the limit and finding hidden reservoirs of strength. We need change to endure, without change we can fall to stagnation, one need to keep the moral compass. In this way there is the possibility to weather the storm, grow and mature with fresh insight.” LightSun